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Family Life
negative feelings for a believing wife. For
if he does not like one of her traits, he may
like other of her traits.” (Sahih Muslim)
The truth is that no man or woman is the
embodiment of all good qualities. It is a law of
nature that if one has some particular good
qualities, he will be lacking in another department.
For instance, we often see that one who is blessed
with outward beauty usually lacks inward
beauty; while one who is not so physically well
endowed tends to have a beautiful soul.
It is the tendency of man to look at the negative
aspects of people rather than their positive
aspects. This is a destructive tendency, which
comes in the way of good relationships. But if we
focus more on the positive aspects rather than the
negative ones, we can form healthy relationships.
And if we do so, we will find that our life partner
is the best partner we can ever find!
God did not create any man or woman
inferior. They were perfect by creation. It is our
perception which is at fault, and which makes us
regard some people as inferior, and some as
superior. If we were to realize this, there would
be no mutual ill-feeling and we would be able to
build our lives in the way God wants us to.
