40
Stubborness — or Determination
O
N
ONE
OF
my journeys abroad, I once met a
certain Christian lady, who confided to me that
her husband was a stubborn person and that she
found it difficult to deal with him. This had led
them to the verge of divorce. I told her that this
was not a real problem—the problem was in her
way of thinking. If she thought of it in a different
manner, her problems would vanish. Instead of
taking him as a stubborn person, ‘stubborn’ being
a negative term; she should consider him a
determined person. Using positive words makes
one think in a positive manner.
I told the lady that her husband was a
determined person, and that this was a good and
manly quality. A person who is devoid of this
quality does not have the courage to face the
challenges of life. And, therefore, one who cannot
face the challenges of life cannot achieve success
in life. The lady was a translator by profession,
and thus proficient in many languages. She was
of a gentle disposition and thus well suited to her
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